Most of us have arenas in our lives where we feel that we are experts. We have taken classes, spent countless hours honing our skills, and made several very educational (if humbling) missteps to led us to the point where we feel confident in our expertise, knowing all that it has taken us to reach this place. For many of us this sense of accomplishment exists within the confines of our careers, but it can exist outside of our professional lives as well.
As we continue to expand our skillsets and refine our crafts, however, it is common for us to reach plateaus in our journey. While we like to believe that we are all constantly hungry and pushing forward, we may find (guiltily) that these plateaus can be a surprisingly welcome, if unexpected, respite from our continual push for improvement. And if we don’t acknowledge this, we find ourselves becoming more likely to stay on these plateaus. This gets us in the same mindset that I wrote about last month in the “If It Ain’t Broke…” blog, where we begin to accept “good enough” as the status quo, and progress in our quest for improvement begins to stall.
One good way to try to tackle this situation is seeking input from a person outside of your inner circle - someone who you have enough of a rapport built with that you can trust the person to be honest, but not someone so ingrained in your day-to-day that that person’s perspective is too similar to your own. The person you approach may also seek reciprocity as they look for outside input on some of their own projects and ideas. Once the meeting is established and clearly set expectations of what you hope to achieve are defined, it is helpful to compile a list of issues to bring to the meeting that you would like your peer’s insight on. It is important to maximize the impact of the time invested for both parties involved, and having an idea of an agenda helps with this.
In an ideal world, every time these kinds of meetings happen both parties share wisdom, learn from each other, and walk away with more knowledge and more motivation to continue progress than they did when they walked in. In practice, this is not always the case – when exposing oneself to the possibility of constructive criticism, things are often said that are not easy to hear. This is why it is critical to assess your mental capacity to take in feedback that may be perceived as negative before requesting the meeting in the first place. We like to believe we are on a consistently progressing forward trajectory, but in truth sometimes we are not ready to leave the plateau. Stress outside of work, mounting additional responsibilities, and burnout can all be reasons to postpone this conversation, among others. Timing this conversation poorly can lead to it, at best, having no impact and, at worst, undermining your confidence as well as tarnishing your relationship with the person you sought out.
Experts, no matter how skilled, are always capable of improvement. Seeking to maintain constant progress is noble, and seeking outside feedback is a great way of doing that – but also understand that not everyone is always ready to have these conversations. Though when the timing and mindsets are right, they can be a tremendous help to igniting momentum that has been lost.
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